Using Stones for Personal Growth

by John and Micki Baumann

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Azurite or White Aventurine:  Communication

Azurite is a crystalline form of copper carbonate that occurs together with malachite in copper deposits.  Named after its azure-blue color, it forms in spherical aggregate balls, dense aggregates, or small crystals.  Azurite is also called chessylite, after the vicinity of Chessy in France, which served as a leading source of the mineral.  It is also mined as spherical aggregates in Australia, Chile, Russia, and USA.  Azurite was used by the ancient Romans and Egyptians, and it was crushed by medieval painters to make blue pigments.

White Aventurine is a translucent white to light gray stone containing tiny flecks of mica that give it a metallic iridescence and make it sparkle in the light, almost as if it contained glitter. Although aventurines can come from all over the world, white aventurine is a recently rediscovered stone that comes from a small mine in Ontario, Canada. In the past, it was used by the Native peoples of Canada, but in modern times it has been a fairly obscure stone until recently when a new pocket was opened up.

Azurite (as well as White Aventurine) acts on the Inner Being to strengthen the ability to Communicate.  This is the ability to express yourself in a way that is really and truly understandable to the person you are communicating with.  It includes getting your point across by being apparent, intelligible, and unambiguous.  It also includes the ability to communicate who you are in terms of motivation, ideas and feelings.  If you are good at communicating, it is easy for you to let people know what you want them to know because you have a good understanding of the impact your information will have, even before you give it.

Communication has both a doing side and a knowing side.  The doing side is expressing yourself effectively.  The knowing side is knowing what to say in order to get through to the other person and get your point across so he really understands what you are talking about.  The doing and knowing side of communication work together as a duality.  This means that as you develop the ability to figure out what to say to someone to get your point across, you also increase the ability to communicate in general.

Part of communication is being a good listener.  You must be able to listen to others so you can understand what they express to you.  People often think of communication as just expressing yourself by putting out information.  But the truth is that if you aren't empathetic and interested in understanding someone, you won't listen to what he has to say, and you can not possibly communicate with him.  Sometimes the highest form of communication is listening.

If you have trouble communicating, you find it difficult to express yourself and let people know who you are, and you often feel misunderstood.  People think you are hard to get to know, and they are hesitant to get close to you.  You also tend to be a poor listener, and others sometimes get frustrated with you because you "tune them out" just when they are telling you something they consider important.


White Aventurine

White Aventurine

Becoming a Better Communicator

To improve your ability to communicate, think of communication as a two way street, and learn to give equal time to listening and expressing yourself in a conversation. For example, if you are communicating with one other person, practice talking no more than half the time, and make sure you listen for at least half the time. If there are more people taking part in the conversation, make sure you give equal time for each person to express himself.

Also, work at building your desire to communicate by becoming a more empathetic and understanding person. Practice this by putting yourself in the other person's shoes, and seeing things from his point of view. This will help you identify with his situation, feelings, and motives, and will make you more interested in understanding him. If you have an interest in understanding someone, you are willing to put energy into finding out what he is all about, and your ability to communicate automatically improves. On the other side of the same coin, work at becoming more interested in letting others know how you feel about them, for example, by often saying to your spouse "I love you".

To become a better communicator, learn to share information only when it is useful and worthwhile, and when it is really needed by someone. Become more pragmatic about giving out knowledge so that you don't waste your energy by communicating useless information or information the other person doesn't want to hear. Before giving out information to someone, make sure it is accurate, and that he is interested in having it. Also make sure he is capable of understanding it intellectually, and that you feel it will be acceptable to him. Give only as much information as someone can accept and deal with, and is willing to absorb. Responding to people by giving them information they really need, not only earns their appreciation, but it also makes you a better communicator.

In addition, work at developing a strong desire for knowledge and truth, a desire to understand what is real in life. Then develop a social connection with someone you can learn it from. This kind of connection is often dynamic and exciting because of the potential growth involved, and it helps develop your ability to communicate because of your desire to know what he knows.